24 Poem Advent Calendar

Poem A Day Advent Calendar
Day One Drawer

Christmas 2021

The safest home I ever had is establishing a New Tradition. Instead of taking things out of the drawers, I’m adding a poem a day.

Freedom from coercive control and showing others the way. A path chosen for me, not by me.

C44U is the logo! Coastal Coercive Control Coalition is the name!

Coalition Goals:

1) Awareness. What is Coercive Control?

2) Education. Coercive Control is a pattern of behavior established over decades of other abuses by a perpetrator of violence against discarded families of International Deadbeat Parents.

3) Prevention. Passage of Sheila’s Law. In honor of 2 most vulnerable victims, my deceased sister and our mother who cared for her. The life they were forced to live by the criminally negligent perpetrator was forced upon them by a man I once called Daddy.

4) Prosecution. C44U’s first MOST WANTED INTERNATIONAL DEADBEAT PARENTS POSTER.

Perpetrator One

Home of International Deadbeat Dad
Sheila’s Law–Prosecution

PROSECUTION.

The final loophole closed. International Deadbeat Parents and the International Entities that conspire to defraud discarded families.

Sleepless in the South

Kabtn dropped back into my life 16 November, 2006
Two months in his home. Had he changed with his carefully groomed young Egyptian Diva, mother of my sisters and his fourth wife. She’s Alexandrian and 10 years my junior.

Two stepmothers before her and his abuse of his three previous wives led me to believe that he was still violent physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally.

Diva has also signed her name to a statement and complaint that includes false information, misleading information and I consider this another form of abuse called abusive litigation or malicious prosecution.

I am a nuisance, an inconvenience in this man’s life. I just will not shut up, go away, or let him drop back out of my life simply because my truth exposes him for who and what he is.

Judge Will Decide

Hey you, yeah you. You think court is a good idea? So do I! Validation seeing your signature on a document full of lies and obfuscation. Desperately trying to keep that power and Coercive Control over your First Mate V. I won’t let you. I told you many times before and I tell you again…

YOU HAVE THE REST OF THE WORLD WHERE YOU’VE MANAGED TO EVADE, AVOID, CONTINUE TO FINANCIALLY ABUSE YOUR FIRST MATE V. YOU CANNOT HAVE AMERICA NOW THAT YOU WANT TO RETURN AFTER 40 YEARS OF FRAUD.

Fertile Ground

Planting New Ideas
Allowing Space for Growth

Fertile Ground

Not a battleground

I stand my ground

A new sound

Buzzes around

Silence

No fists pound

My flesh

They frowned

I cringed

Wings singed

By Friendly Fire

I fly

Aboveground

Not buried

Underground

Circle round

Unbroken

Words spoken

New ground broken

Planting seeds

Of freedom

In Motion

1. Survive 2. Thrive 3. Flourish

WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL?

Perpetrators of coercive control are domestic violence abusers who resort to illegal acts in order to further abuse their victim.

Coercive Control is all about power for the perpetrator. They will use emotional, mental, financial, verbal, and physical abuse. Criminalizing coercive control in the most egregious deadbeat parent cases is necessary because these perps enjoy wreaking havoc. They will destroy lives without mercy.

Coercive control is a callous and calculated pattern of behavior by the perpetrator. Criminal acts perpetrated by someone with malicious intent on innocent victims should be held accountable for their actions in Court.

My Daily Med

The birthday message that changed me:

DO NOT TAKE OFFENSE (1)

It is difficult to grow spiritually if you have offense in your heart. When you walk in blessing, love, and forgiveness, you will experience God’s peace and power. Are you having a tough time letting go of offense? I did.

October 31, 2020. Birthday number 58. I was ready to get well. Something everyone should know–You cannot heal spiritual disease with worldly cures. I have taken this message from Joyce Meyer Ministries as my Year 58 Pledge. DON’T TAKE OFFENSE. You can refuse to TAKE the offense offered.

What kinds of things offend us? When someone doesn’t appreciate my work, or me; when people talk at me and don’t listen to me, I got offended. Another person ignored me, my father’s abuse and fraud. That is the biggy and the one that set me free and started the healing of my soul sickness. Wow! What a force Christians could be on this earth if we could all just decide to love each other and stop criticizing people who don’t think exactly the way we think. When we get to heaven, there will not be designated sections for each denomination. We have this life here on earth to practice getting along.

WE NEED TO SEEK UNITY IN DIVERSITY

We must unify around our differences in our lives. Learn how to disagree agreeably and appreciate the differences in people.

One of Paul’s Apostolic Power Prayers is Philippians 1:9-11–9) And this I pray, that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and in discernment, 10) That you may approve the things that are excellent, that you may be sincere and without offense til the day of Christ, 11) being filled with the fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God. ***I pray you might approve things that are excellent; that you may be SINCERE and WITHOUT OFFENSE until Christ returns.*** Psalm 119:165–Great peace have they who love Your law; nothing shall offend them or make them stumble.***

There are certain things you can put on your prayer list, and these things are important enough to pray every day. Pray every morning that for this day, you will not be offended and get mad at anyone. Just to be able to say to the Lord when you say your prayers at night, “Lord, I’m happy to say that I can go to sleep tonight and I’m not mad at anyone.”

Furthermore, if you want to be a seriously committed Christian, you will lay aside your emotions and what you think, and you will be committed to not going to bed angry. Don’t wait for the other person to make it right, just go ahead and be first.

When you wake up in the morning, pray, “God, keep me strong so I do not spend my day offended.” Say to yourself, “Today, I choose to not be offended no matter what happens.”

Coastal Coercive Control Coalition (C4) is a proactive approach to continued abuse within my family. I have been instructed to share my own personal experience with the detrimental effects of coercive control. The most insidious thing about coercive control is that the abuser does not have to be present in your life to inflict this type of abuse.

COERCIVE CONTROL is an established pattern of abuse. Some abusers will even commit crimes to maintain control of their intended victim, and they do not care who else is hurt in the process.

C4 Slogan–Hurt people hurt people. Part of my outreach will be addressing the effects of domestic violence, which I believe is a Generational Curse and only healing soul sickness will break it.

C4. The Coastal Coercive Control Coalition. Awareness. Education. Prevention. Prosecution.